just told my bf of 3 yrs that i've fallen out of love with him. now we're playing the blame game.
and we have a 6 month old together.
any advice? have u been through this?
no negative comments plz, this is a very touchy and emotional subject

i agree, just don't play this game

there is no advice to be given. Both of you have to move on regardless of who's "fault" it is.Just don't blame the kid.

just tell him you have grown apart...(ino it sounds stupid) but its true...if you dont love him any more tell him you dont...but still let him be in your childs life....and stay friends...it might be hurting you but think about the child too...either brake up and stay friends or try counseling..

Falling out of love is something you just can't really help. Just tell him that there really is no use in blaming anyone, and that you two will just have to work something out as far as your 6 month old goes. Good luck, I wish you the best.

don't go down that route "blaming each other" your BOTH at fault as you have let down your child, shes young so she wont know this but she will know about your behaviour so have a heart to heart with him he may have say things he thought you did wrong and vise versa, just say i dont love you its not something you can fake and be kind and set dates on when he can the child etc... going down blaming people is the wrong route.

the only bit of advise is to be mature even if the other person is making things hard! your child is the most important thing in all this

Are you still going to stay together? If you are you can add a spark to it to rekindle the love. If not, just let it go. He is blaming you to make himself feel better.

What is it that made you fall out of love with hime. Communication is the answer to all problems. Talk to him. Maybe falling out of love really isn't what you feel. Maybe it is just your bored. Are you interacting with other guys? Remember one thing. The grass is never greener, you still have to mow the lawn.

I have one slightly negative comment. Couples that aren't married shouldn't be having kids especially when there is the possibility of a break up, and the chances are always good. Now you must take responsibility of the mistake. It's no ones fault, and it proves both of your low maturity levels. If you have a baby together you have to handle this right, you can't blame each other. But you can't stay together if you no longer love him. Break it off and see how things then fall into place. If you feel like you miss him, try it again. You two must be living together, so move out (don't ask him too, just do it yourself) and then share the custody and care of the baby. That is all you really can do. If you force yourself to fall BACK into love with him, it will all go haywire.

Well, in my book if you fall out of love with someone, you were never in love with them to begin with, because love always prevails. But in your case you do have a child and even after your breakup you still seem concerned for your relationship. I broke up with my bf of 2 and 1/2 yrs recently, but we got bak 2gether bc i realized i couldn't spend a day without him. If you love him you will work on being together, and vica versa. Hope i could help!

FIRST OFF U CANT TELL PPL NOT TO LEAVE NEGATIVE COMMENTS,THEN THEY LEAVE THEM...
ANYWAYS THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE.DONT BLAME HIM.DONT BLAME YA SELF.JUST SAY GOODBYE AND BEGONE.SOMEONE MOVE OUT IF YA'LL LIVE TOGETHER.ITS SAD BUT IF U DONT LOVE HIM YOU GOT THE RIGHT TO BE FREE OF HIM(EXCEPT FOR KID OF COURSE)

I agree with not playing the game. When relationships merely fall apart it can be no one's fault. Sometimes people can love each other for a while and then stop. It is all too common, and is not something that should cause that much drama. Both of you should be more concerned about being civil for your child's sake than who is to blame. But the child first: you created him, now try to act civil for that child so that he won't look back and know you two always fought. Because honestly, if the game gets too bad, the problems will stay there for years to come. That isn't healthy for either of you and especially not for the child. Your mental health, and that of the child, is more important than some stupid blame game.

Take deep breaths and realize that maybe this is just what was meant to be.

Now, if you would like to try to work things out because of the history you two have, that is understandable. Sometimes when a child is born there is a problem with the relationship, for both married and unmarried couples. The child throws the couple into a whole new area: now there is a life that has both of them in it and they are both responsible for that life. It can lead to a lot of tension and resentment, which again, isn't healthy, but it does happen more often than not. Now, don't let anyone tell you that you HAVE to stay together for your child- there are children who grew up with their parent's separated and as long as they were civil, the children were well adjusted. But, if you want to try to salvage that long relationship, then communication is the key. Don't hold back when you're upset or angry, or happy even. Tell each other, but be tactful. No one wants to be jumped on as soon as they open their mouths, and no one likes to be belittled. Remember, you will always disagree, but that doesn’t mean one of you is right and one of you is wrong. It means that you have your own minds, which can often lead to a more interesting relationship anyway- it would be an interesting balance, a negative and positive charge, so to speak. If they have a habit that bothers you, tell them in a constructive way. Something like “your hair is always a friggin’ mess” isn’t helpful, and will only cause another problem. Saying something like “I wish you would take better care of yourself, since you look so nice when you do” would be much more effective and less likely to cause a full out argument. If you do want to make this work, it will take a lot of work. It is all about give and take and you two need to find a healthy medium to your differences.

Stop playing the game.. When he sees you don't care about what he says to say or blame you for, he'll give up and stop..
It's hard though I know. I'm goign through the same. It's kind of hard to keep your motuh shut and just ignore when someone is right in your face saying mean hurtfull things.
Best you can do is just tell him he's only allowed to call when he's picking up your daughter and not talk about anything else, and you'll only call when it's regarding your daughter.
You didn't chose to fall out of love with him, it just happened and now he needs to get over it and move on and let you do the same!

Its tough when someone falls out of love. Especially if you have a child. The best way to go about this is to ask yourself this: What is best for your child? Although I am not in this situation I understand how it must feel because I have a brother with two children and I see the kids being passed from house to house just like just like tennis balls being played on the tennis courts. They don't get the amount of love and support that a child may need to have. Its always best to serparate when you fall out of love but stay near each other because even though that chemistry is not there anymore the child will want to have their parents. Yes, Do ask yourself what action do you want to take with this? Then, ask yourself What can you do to make sure the child still stays happy? After all, I believe you want the best for your children. Best of luck with that and if you need anything else, feel free to ask me at Email this person

best wishes