I just found out that my boyfriend [of 1 year] speaks to his ex via msn [instant messenger] and maybe also email. I don't really care because I think we have a strong relationship, but is this normal/should I delve into why he wants to talk to her?

I asked if he mentioned me, and he couldn't answer yes or no...this I found a little unnerving. His ex is someone he doesn't talk fondly about, so I wonder why he would bother keeping in touch...

This isn't something I plan on mulling on for any amount of time, just wondered what other people thought about it.

Cheers

YES YOU SHOULD CARE! please trust me on this it happend to me and i got screwed.

Perhaps you should get a boyfriend who wants to live in the future and not in the past. I think a lot of guys [ and girls] still maintain contact with an ex, which is maybe why so many relationships these days, bomb. He probably talks about your relationship. Doesn't make him seam very trustworthy. There is generally only room in a relationship for two people. Lots of people say its ok to maintain a friendship with an ex, so why doesn't it work then ? The boundries get too blurred. Relationships require commitment. If he was commited to your relationship, then why would he be delving into the past ? Something for you both to talk about. You need to have the same expectations of a relationship, in order for it to work.